Slowing Down Slowing Down

 

I can’t believe it’s already the middle of July; it seems like just weeks ago we were counting down to the new year. The older I get, the more I realize how quickly time flies! It’s funny because sometimes the days can feel like they drag on forever, but the weeks seem to go by so quickly. Kind of a paradox of sorts.

In this day in age, things have been moving at lightning speed and so efficiently that it can be easy to forget to take a step back. Our mental health could really benefit from making time for ourselves to do things we enjoy outside of our scope of work or daily routines, but it seems that we rarely do. “The real world” can be demanding and responsibilities definitely need to be prioritized, but there should be a line between working hard and feeling overworked.

We’re put under a lot of pressure by society to be successful, but I think a lot of it is internalized. You will always be your toughest critic, and that means you have to be the one to lift that weight off of your shoulders. Reward yourself for all of your hard work by taking the time to do something that truly brings you joy. It’s important to clear your head every once in awhile, so finding what does that for you is imperative.

Slowing Down

Time can be fleeting, and that’s why I’ve been making an effort to slow down. Instead of aiming to be productive every minute of every day, I’ve been taking things as they come (even if that means binge watching Netflix for hours on end. No shame.) I’ve also decided to take ballet classes twice a week to 1. get some much needed exercise and 2. break up the monotony in my week. Taking these small steps has helped me find a better balance between being productive and relaxing, and I know my mind is eternally grateful. It’s amazing how making even the slightest positive change can affect your mood and well-being!

In a world where the fast-forward button seems to constantly be on, remember to be the one to hit pause when you need it. Being productive through every stretch of the day can be counterproductive when it starts to bog you down as it can make you very tired and unmotivated. On the contrary, giving your mind a refreshing break is probably one of the best ways to amplify your productivity. You’re putting in the work that your responsibilities demand, why not put the same effort into your mental health? Take that step back; you’ll be amazed with what a fresh mindset can do.

Slowing Down
P.S. I should probably invest in a iron and ironing board, haha

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This month has been one of those months where everything has just been so hectic. I don’t know what’s in the water lately but business has picked up immensely! It’s just the art director and me that make up the design department at our company, and we have two very large web design projects going on simultaneously. This is of course on top of all the random requests that come in from other clients as well, but luckily our bosses have been gracious enough to let us hire a freelancer to help us pick up the extra assignments. Needless to say I have been working the full extent of my 9-6 shift (Yep, no stretch breaks! I’m feeling it…) I have some vacation days saved up that I am eager to use when this is all over, hopefully around the beginning of October. It works out perfectly because that’s just in time for Cameron and I’s first wedding anniversary!

Enough work talk, though. I picked up this adorable cutout dress from American Eagle a little while ago so unfortunately I can’t find the link for it. The funny thing is when I purchased it I didn’t realize it had the cutouts! Not very observant of me, I know, but it was a cute little surprise. I’ve mentioned before that I’ve been loving midi-length skirts lately, and this dress definitely fits the bill. The little buttons down the front are probably my favorite detail, though. I’m a sucker for buttons.

Hope everyone has a great weekend!

Finding a Niche

When I started my blog back in January of 2016, I had no idea the kind of creative journey I was about to embark on. The past year and a half has been one giant experiment. I thought I had settled on a direction for my blog, but I came to realize that it wasn’t exactly the direction I wanted. I’ve mostly written about beauty with a sprinkle of style and other random things throughout, but I see now that it’s not really something I enjoy writing about all the time. I don’t get the same feeling buying, reading about, or writing about makeup the way I used to. In fact, I don’t even wear makeup every day! Towards the end, my posts felt a little insincere because I just wasn’t loving what I was writing about. Of course I still have an appreciation for makeup and all things beauty related, and I don’t plan on giving it up completely. It’s just that my heart has always gravitated towards style and life posts. Time management was the only reason I didn’t pursue them further, but I’m done making up excuses.

Lots of people are lucky – they have their niche from the get go. As someone who changes her mind quite often (an unfortunate habit), it takes a lot of trial and error to figure out what I want. I knew I liked to write, I just never had a firm grasp on what I liked to write about. That’s what’s great about having a blog. It’s your space to do whatever you please. If you want to write about lip gloss one day and flying monkeys the next, then by all means go for it. No one is there to tell you otherwise. It’s your chance to learn more about yourself and your interests. It’ll be clear when your posts start to feel forced, and that’s when you need to re-evaluate.

Finding a Niche

While many blogging-advice posts will warn you to steer clear of writing about a bunch of different topics, I found that it actually helped give me focus. I had it in my mind that I wanted to write about all of these things, and instead I realized that my heart was pulling toward a particular genre all along. So no, the way I went about finding my niche was definitely not the easy way, but for me it was more about the learning experience. I needed that moment where I said, “Hey. This isn’t so fun to write about. Stop forcing content.” It was definitely very humbling!

All in all a blog is your place to string together your thoughts and ideas. It may take a little experimentation before you find what you really love to write about, and that’s okay. The ultimate goal is to make your blog your happy place. It’s better to take your time and try things out versus getting stuck in a niche you don’t feel too passionate about. Rome wasn’t built in a day, right?

Finding a Niche

Dressing for the Heat

When it comes to the weather, I’m pretty much the brunette version of Goldilocks. I can’t stand it when it’s too cold, and I definitely can’t stand it when it’s too hot. Of course it’s my luck to live in a climate that chooses to only have two seasons: winter and a 9-month-long summer.

Georgia heat is its own beast. Not only is it hot, but it’s incredibly humid as well which makes it feel like you’re stepping into a sauna every time you venture outside. Thankfully I’ve learned a thing or two about how to dress for the sweltering heat in my 24 years of living here, and it all centers around one mantra: less is more.

never layer in the summer. It looks so nice and chic, but it’s just not practical. My summer silhouettes are always very simple, light, and airy. Usually I just like to slip on a dress or pair my favorite jean shorts with a tank top. On the surface that may sound a bit boring, but in actuality it gives your accessories a chance to quite literally shine. Summer is the time you can get away with unique jewelry, funky hats, and those handbags that look like little wicker baskets that are becoming very commonplace now. The point is that even though the silhouette may be simple, you can still find ways to incorporate your personality through other means. No one needs to be miserable and excessively sweaty for the sake of style!

My favorite accessory this summer has probably been my denim baseball cap. Not only does it offer some shady relief, but it also protects my scalp and face from getting burned. Plus it has the cutest little pineapple on the front! Normally I’m not much of a hat person, but I’ve really grown to like them thanks to this guy.

So this has been my very general overview for how I like to dress in the summer. Keeping it simple and effortless is the name of the game!

What are some of your favorite summer staples? Let me know in the comments!

A Quarter Life Crisis

A Quarter Life Crisis
Floral wrap dress from ASOS

As my 25th birthday swiftly approaches, my concern for the future has irrationally grown. It’s funny to think that when you were 16, 25 seemed so mature – you thought by this time you would be established and have a clear direction in life. In reality, I’ve never felt more confused! Here’s the thing: school was simple. You (hopefully) knew the outcome and there was an end goal. Once you got past picking a major, your mission was to graduate and land a job. After that happened for me just as planned, a monster-sized question mark dropped in front of me shouting, “Now what?”

A Quarter Life Crisis

A Quarter Life Crisis

The ‘natural’ order of things is to start at the bottom rung of the latter and work your way to the top. Eventually you’ve gone as far as you can go until it’s time to retire and live out the rest of your days. Other than that, there really aren’t any more end goals or clear directions to go in. You kind of just confusedly bop around until you find your place in the world. As someone who likes to be in control of every situation, this drives me absolutely crazy! I hate not knowing where I’ll be in say, four years, the way I did in high school or college. To make up for this, I’ve been dabbling in TONS of new things. It’s my strange way of giving control back to myself, but it also has the tendency to backfire because I feel disappointed when things don’t go as planned. While a little experimentation is good, what I’ve been doing is a clear-cut case of lacking focus, which is never a good thing.

I think the idea of being in the same career path for the next 40 years has really spooked me, but as I said before I have no idea where I’ll be in four years. Instead of viewing this as a negative thing, I should be open and optimistic (and probably stop being such a control freak). I need to spend less time worrying (which has the power to change absolutely nothing, by the way) and more time hyper-focused on one or two things that make me happy. 25 is still young, and there’s plenty of time to let the chips fall where they may. Who knows, they could fall into the most unpredictable of places!

A Quarter Life Crisis