This past weekend, my husband and I celebrated our first wedding anniversary. We kept it really low-key and enjoyed a much-needed staycation! We’ve never been the type of people to do anything extravagant for celebrations, and we made no exception for our anniversary. We’re both introverted homebodies, so he cooked us a lovely meal and we had a quiet night in. It was very “us.”
As I think back on the past year, I remember the question we got asked the most at the beginning: “How’s married life?” My honest answer was: “Not much different than before!” Cam and I get along like best friends, so we both knew the transition from ‘single’ life to married life wasn’t going to be a big deal. It definitely helps that we’ve known each other since we were 14, practically grew up together, dated for nine years before getting engaged, and lived together before we got married. You think we’d know absolutely everything about one another now, but there are still little things we discover about each other, missed stories we forgot to tell, and probably things we’ll never know (because how can you know absolutely everything about someone without being in their head?!). Some people may find commitment terrifying or boring, but I’ve found it nothing short of exhilarating.
Marriage was one hundred and ten percent the right decision for us, but that’s not to say we don’t have our squabbles every now and then. I think as long as you agree on or at least learn to accept the major things in life (kids, religion, politics, etc.), you can get through anything. Most of the time when we fight, we can’t keep a straight face because of how dumb we realize we sound. We used to get in more serious fights when we were kids, but we both did a lot of growing up and realized it’s not worth fighting over every little thing. We have actually fought way less since we’ve moved in together, which came as a shock to me! Communication is key, as cliché as it sounds. Learning how to properly communicate was a real life saver for us.
It’s great to have someone there 24/7 to talk to when you need emotional support, or just to have their company even if that just means being in the same room together but not necessarily interacting. Cameron and I spend a lot of time together, but we also make sure to spend some time apart, too. We have different interests and we both need alone time to some degree. Respecting each others’ space can be just as important as being open and communicative. Granted, in our free time we spend more time together than apart, but it’s all about finding a balance that works best for both of us.
To put it simply, I reflect on this year and am glad that I married the best friend I’ve ever had. Even though it doesn’t necessarily feel any different, I proudly wear my gold rings around my finger as a reminder of one of the best decisions of my life.
And this is just the beginning.